BASICS FOR RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY

People come to me because their relationships have been painfully unsuccessful.  Often they are focused on romantic difficulties, but what I hope they will learn from me is how to have happy, healthy, interdependent relationships in every instance.  Every day I am grateful to my teachers.  This is where I begin outlining the Basics.  When one becomes confused in their practice of new behaviors, returning to the Basics may bring clarity.


* TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF:  Self-care and personal responsibility comes first.

* LOVE OTHERS ENOUGH TO ALLOW THEM TO BE SELF-RESPONSIBLE:  Caring rather than care-taking.

* ZERO TOLERANCE FOR ABUSE:  I will not abuse another, nor will I be abused.

* CREATE PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL SAFETY FOR ONESELF:  A lifted hand, palm turned outward -- the universal signal to STOP.

* BECOME SAFE FOR OTHERS:  Single purpose, unconditional love.

* SPIRITUALITY:  Who I am in relationship to God, as I understand God, myself, and others.

* SOME RELATIONSHIPS WON'T WORK:  Let them go with love.

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